Over the last three years I have learned a lot about myself and the world around me. I am always growing, but I have seen myself grow the night of the car accident to now.
I am my best advocate
I used to be very shy and I tended to not stick up for myself. Once going through my journey I learned that I had a voice and how important it is that I use as much as I possibly can especially as it comes to my health. During the year that I was being diagnosed I went a few different doctors until I found the right fit. People would say I was doctor shopping to find one that would tell me what I wanted to hear. That was far from the truth. I know my body better than anyone else. I knew something wasn’t right and I was right. I found my doctors because I advocated for myself.
I am a lot stronger than I ever thought
I used never consider myself a strong person. I always thought of myself as weak and timid. I used to get upset over every little thing and never stood up for myself. I would sometimes let people do everything for me because I was too scared. (If someone reading this is similar to what I described I am not saying you aren’t strong I am only saying how I felt about myself). When I went away to school I grew up some, but I didnt notice how strong and brave I truly was until after I got hurt. I take each day as it comes and I won’t let anything get me down, at least for long.
Not to Judge someone until you are in their shoes
I used to think I was a pretty empathetic person and I realized how much more I am now than I was before. I used to get upset when people in the service industry were rude. I felt bad when people were suffering and I could see it. I realized now that there are way more people suffering than any of us really know. Maybe the rude waitstaff was having a bad pain day. Maybe the person next to me with attitude was having an internal anxiety attack? You truly will never know unless you ask or you walk in the shoes (or my favorite is walk in their body suit).
A new normal isn’t all bad
I used to get upset about having to go through a “new normal” I didnt want my whole life to be different especially because I had just graduated college and I had my whole life ahead of me. Truth is I still have my whole life ahead of me and if I didn’t have to experince a new normal I wouldn’t be where I am today. I wouldn’t have had this blog, i wouldn’t have a podcast. I probably be terrified to speak in front of others and i for sure wouldn’t be facing my fears daily like driving the expressways.
Life is short
I always knew life was short, but I truly realized how short it can be. I almost died because someone was “distracted” while driving. One day I am laying out my the pool and going to dinner the next thing I know is I am holding my head and crying due to the pain. We need to do what makes us happy. If we have people in our lives holding us back or that don’t cherish us then it’s time to cut ties. If there is a job you hate start looking for something you love. For everything that upsets you there is always a way to change it even if it feels hopeless.
These are 5 of the most important lessons I have learned. I will continue to learn more about myself and the world around me.